That Lying, Cheating Piece of *bleep*

How many times has that sentiment been echoed? Far too often in my opinion.

I've never quite gotten why people cheat on each other. The way I see it, you're both grown and if one or both parties are unhappy with the current dynamic of the relationship, then fix it. It's that simple. If you think its not fixable then get the fuck out. 

I'm pretty sure that talking about the things that aren't going right between you two and ultimately deciding to either work through the problems or end the relationship is miles easier than sneaking around trying to cover up your infidelity. 

Do you know how much effort is involved in keeping unfaithfulness a secret? For starters, you have to delete all forms correspondences; the text messages and the emails. Be sure you log out of your IM. You can't just randomly place your phone anywhere because who knows when your jump - off might call? And will somebody please explain to me how these people keep up with the lies! "Ugh, she's my cousin babe, and we were catching up on old times". Two weeks later, you get home from work early to see him giving it to his cousin in the middle of your dinning room on top of your table. Yea, that's a really close family. 

The thing about the whole situation though, is that more often than not, the person being cheated on suspects that something is going on, for one reason or another. Whether they smell a strange perfume/cologne on their partner, or they see right through the "I'm working late" stories, whatever the case may be, they usually have their suspicions. What's sad about the whole affair is that most people will just deny, deny, deny and then deny the reality some more. 'Oh, she loves me, she would never cheat on me. I'm reading too much into things'. I say BULL-FUCKING-SHIT. 

If you feel in your gut that something is wrong, it's because something probably is. You should should trust your intuition. There might not be any actual cheating going on but the fact that you feel this way, speaks to a disconnect between you and your partner and its something that definitely needs to be discussed. 

Grow some balls. Lay it all on the table with them; be honest about your feelings. Understand before proceeding with this conversation that this may be the end of everything and accept that. Things can only go one of two ways; you're either together and trying to work it out or you're breaking up. And if it does come to that, don't fool yourself, it will hurt like hell's fire but I guarantee you, it'll hurt a whole lot less than finding out he's been having mid afternoon study session with his classmate in her dorm room.

Pink Duchess 

xoxo